How To Improve Myself?
How to become a better self and make a wiser decisions?
Life often throws us unexpected challenges when we are not ready.
How if I tell you, your thoughts form the way you are, you can be bigger than your thinking. Many times life decided to make you realize, and learn something from difficulties by giving you challenges. We can choose to look at it as “problems” in life, or lessons in life.
Once I heard, “There are no failures, there are only lessons.”
When you face difficult times, know that challenges are not sent to destroy you. They are sent to promote, increase and strengthen you.
From time to time, you may make mistakes, but that’s normal, nobody is perfect. Sometimes we repeat the same mistakes again, I just want to let you know, that is okay too. We will learn and eventually become smarter.
1. Monitor How You Feel
When setbacks hit, is very hard to ask one to stay positive. I hate to ask you to be POSITIVE, but what you can do on the particular down, hopeless day, just don’t continue building your setback feelings.
Meaning, if you find building a wall is tough, don’t do it today. Sit back and relax. Watch ‘F.r.i.e.n.d.s’ bloopers. Watch some funny talk show. Tell yourself, I do not suck, I’m just tired today.
Lets optimistic and enthusiastic carry on tomorrow if not, the day after tomorrow when you feel good. Continue to seek out new opportunities when you feel good. Opportunities don’t knock for sure, but we can seek opportunities when our energy bar is full again.
If opportunity doesn’t knock, build a door – Milton Berle
2. Re-look Into Your Strengths and Weaknesses
What can you do best? What can you do best and still feeling happy? What can demotivate you and hard to get back on track again? Look at your abilities and see how else you can employ them to good use.
Analyze what is the main cause that brings you down. Are there alternative ways to deal with the obstacles? Make sure you rest enough, feel good to give yourself enough time to try out a different approach.
If you know you can give up doing the same thing easily, then try not to immerse yourself too much from the beginning. Spread out the joy, it will last a longer miles.
If your weakness is how people condemn you, then stop listening. I know it’s hard to tell them to keep their mouth shut, but if you know their words can affect you, then choose your friends wisely. Read more about what is a friend for here.
The less you respond to rude, critical, argumentative people… the more peaceful your life becomes. – Mandy Hale
3. Break Your Routine and Seek The Unfamiliar
Read and watch something new, new topics of articles, new genre of movies, music, read something that you can hardly understand. Stimulate your brain juice. See if you can find something new and interesting to learn.
For example, new languages, music instruments, a new sport, a new travel locations. Go to places you have not been before, open to culture that you are not familiar with. You’ll be surprised how much you can adapt, and started to like and enjoy a new culture, new info, and new environment. Develop habits of reading a variety of subjects to improve your general knowledge.
Exploring unplanned itinerary lets you discover possibilities or opportunities you never knew existed. A new way of living of life will follow along. A change is always a good thing, a change can be challenging, but it will be a good change. Obstacles are there happening all the time, but it is not everlasting, it is temporary.
Albert Einstein said: “In the middle of every difficulty lies opportunity.”
4. Start Listening to People Who Are Better Than Us
Opportunities knock only when we have an open heart and ears. It’s true! If you don’t start listening, how can I deliver the message to you about where to dig the gold? If you don’t empty your glass, how can people pour in more yummy juices? Broaden our mental parameters can bring a lot of unknown great information to us. An open mind lets you receive things from different people and enable you to see things from different perspectives. Read different genres of materials or you can listen to some audiobooks too.
Growth isn’t always linear, two steps forward, one step back.
5. Ask Questions
There are no stupid questions. Well, when you portray yourself a smart person, your questions can be easily become not too smart questions, but if you are always-willing-to-learn-more student, your questions will never be silly enough for others to answer. The more you ask, the more the other person willing to tell you more about what he/she knows. This is how you can learn even faster than you read. Sometimes, you can even learn from the other person’s mistakes. We take note, and we can accelerate the learning process even faster.
- Monitor How You Feel
- Re-look Into Your Strengths and Weaknesses
- Break Your Routine and Seek The Unfamiliar
- Start Listening to People Who Are Better Than Us
- Ask Questions
Leave me some comments to let me know what you want to implement first? For me, I always ask how do I feel today? If I feel good, I write blogs to help people! Otherwise, let’s watch some funny show tonight! No big deal.
Let me know which one you prefer? Till next time!